One of the first bits of advice I got when researching dating for Aspies was, just be you. It took me aback and it took me quite a while to work out why that was. It is because we are always so used to putting faces on to the wider world that we sometimes forget who we are, underneath it all. When I started to think about dating as an Aspie, two things immediately struck me. There are plenty of books for people already in a relationship.