Q: My year-old daughter has recently begun to date a young man who is She told us he was 16, thinking that we would accept him better if we thought he was younger. However, we have found out how old he really is, and are concerned about her dating someone four years older than she. A: Allowing a fourteen-year-old to date an adult is very likely unwise. On the very slight chance, though, that his maturity level is much lower than his age would predict - and to be totally fair to both your daughter and her friend - it may be wise to meet him. This is also a good way of easing her more gently toward your probable termination of the relationship.