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But it might be a mind game that if you know how to handle well, will work for your advantage. Have you ever experienced having a man so all over you just to have him act uninterested the next day? What should you do? You and him are in the early stages of dating. In return, you started asking yourself, is he the one? You look forward to getting to know him better.

And when he was home, he called me multiple times in a day and he brought me everywhere even if he was with the guys. AND when he went out to hang out with his friends, he FaceTimed me and let me talk to all of his friends and at times secluded himself from his friends just to talk to me and he just drowned me in compliments and pet names. Please help me read his mind. Same question as above too.

Where is the fine line? Ive been dateing a man for several years. He is a great guy and does everything for me. Fixing my car, appliances and generally being there when I need him. My grip is he does not make an effort to hug, kiss me or be romantic when he comes over. The only time he is romantic, is when we are in bed. Makes excuses that he is too tired or that he spent so much money on the stuff he bought me. However, I was under the impression he had a girlfriend. Something kept on bugging me about it though and so I ended up going up to him one day and just asking him.

He got really bashful and just seemed very hesitant. We exchanged numbers and later that even he came over to talk for a bit. It was nice just sitting around chatting and we talked about how I have liked him for some time and how he had liked me too but never thought to ask me out. When he was getting ready to go we agreed to hang out again. After a few minutes of just standing around awkwardly he did it.

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He leaned in and gave me a kiss. It ended up being one of those really long and just tender kisses that basically takes your breathe away and makes you lightheaded. Then he left. Comments are so greatly appreciated! You are very right Eric. It just happened to me. This was a long distance relationship, he already has visited me once. It was not official yet, just knowing each other. In this year he has acted both cold and hot, sometimes distant, but he sent messages almost every day via Whats App for almost a year, so I thought he was really into me, even though he meets a lot of other women because of his job trips and has confessed to that likes to flirt innocently, but that with me it was different he told me that at the beginning of the year.

He went out of his way in September to visit me for a weekend, that was very sweet. We talked about spending thanksgiving weekend together. I was going to visit him in Florida, but then he came with the idea to go to Hawaii. I became very excited about going to Hawaii, but then he was traveled for some weeks to Africa and it became very hard to reach him to make plans, and I was trying to ask him about the plans so I could buy my ticket and felt ignored by him many times.

Then he called and told that his company offered him to move to London next year and was confused if accept or not, and that was very busy to go to Hawaii, but probably he could come to visit me in California but was going to confirm me in two days.

Two days that became two weeks. I tried to not asking him again in order to not be needy, but was looking for Airfares everyday silly mein case I could visit him in Florida as the original plan. Finally he arrived to Florida the sunday before thanksgiving and we could talk at the phone.

He began to say that was very busy and tired, that sorry, but he had to cancel the plans. I felt very bad, I was looking forward to spend the holiday with him. So during a call on Tuesday I finally told him how bad I felt about being ignored and finally stood up. THEN he told me that he felt very pressured by me asking about the plans, that I was expecting to much of him, practically told me that I was not his girlfriend, blah blah, and that is way he was also acting distant. I accepted another invitation for thanksgiving, and now I stopped contacting him.

He has sent a message every day saying hello and hoping my day is fine. I am still very pissed off. Fast forward 7 months, I met a good guy locally at the beginning if the year. He treats me well and we see each other 3 times a week. I still remain friends with the other guy but keeping my distance.

That guy was not fully mature and was not that into me. I am glad I decided to move on. But I seriously need some advice. But recently his work has been quite hectic, he date half way and he has to do conference calls. On some occasions he even cancels last minute due to big projects at hand.

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Plus to make it worse just last week I asked the big question. I was so upset with the last comment. Then things started to change he went to work that day, and only called me once to explain to me what got upto on Sat night. No text or phone call. I know my questions sound needy and he freaked out. But is there any way that things can go back to the way they were?

And what should I do? Please, please help me. Because as you said in previous articles match his level commitment to yours. Continue to be open to dating other men. Then you can see his effort. If a man is dating you and bringing you into his world, he likes you on some level and is attracted on some level, so just always assume the best in that department. And just focus on increasing that attraction. I met a guy online in early January of this year.

After exchanging messages for a couple of weeks and a phone meeting, we met in person. It went really well. Whether it was to say hi, tell me about his day, wish me a happy day, set up our next date, or send me silly videos or articles he thought I might like, we were in contact daily.

He always initiated contact and asked me out. He made a lot of effort to see me. He always came to my side of town too. I only went to his side of town once. And I only asked him to do something a couple of times. We ended up seeing each other at least 2x a week since meeting. Each time we saw each other we had a great time he would always send a text later telling me how much he enjoyed our time together and was looking forward to the next time.

The last time I saw him Saturday before V-Daywe spent the entire day and part of the evening together. It was a fantastic Saturday. We exchanged a few texts on Sunday. That was the last time he initiated contact. I made plans to spend that evening with my girlfriends. The radio silence all week was puzzling to me though. I left it at that. Did he lose interest or is he withdrawing?

To go from constant contact to nothing is confusing. A week? Two weeks? I am disappointed and I know there are plenty of other men out there but I really like him and I would also like to know if this is worth pursuing. I am almost in the same situation.

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Pls help. I met this guy online abt months ago he lives across the country. At first i thought he would never come fly to see me but he did.

And thought that would be the last i would see him and made contact with him. But aftr 3 months he asked me to fly to seattle where he lives so we could get to know more abt each other. So i did. We text everyday. We call each other from time to time and we skype too whenever were both off the next days.

Everything seems so perfect. I even flew there again last new year to spend the holiday with him. Hes a busy guy he goes to work and has school aftr work twice a day.

After work and on his days off he just do his hw. Hes going to school for video game design and they really have a lot of hw.

When we started talking way before he already told me his not aftraid to be alone that kinda worries me but i didnt pay much attention abt it.

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He had a relationship that lasted for 5 yrs but they broke up coz his ex wants to get married and he wasnt ready. I always tell him how everything will be ok when hes stressed out abt work and school. Hes schedule to fly here in 2 weeks. Last monday we were in usual routine. Texting from the min he and i woke up and till night. Again he told me he had a rough day at work and his boss is asking him to do overtime again. He said he dont think its fair for him to keep seeing me when he dont think hes gonna fall for me.

But couple months ago he said hes falling for me thats why he get jealous with my guy friends. I asked him if im stressing him or if i did anything wrong. He said i did absolutely nothing wrong and he wish im not such a nice person so this wouldnt be hard.

He said he know it hurts and it hurts him a lot too. His finals would be over in 2 weeks and thats when hes suppose to fly here. What should i do? I havent text him or call him and same as him. And that really broke my heart : should i call him aftrr his finals and ask him all the questions i want to ask?

Coz part of me is saying probably hes just too stressed with work and school. Thats why he ended it? He also said he doesnt have time to have gf now and thats what we become basically. But i dont ask him to do much for me.

When he tells me he gonna wait for me to get home so we could skype i always tell Him he doesnt have to that he could sleep coz he has school. We text each other every min or hour but hes the one who started it. When we were out on date he told me that he has been through some very messy relationships, prepared to be alone for rest of his life, but lonely too and would like to be married again so we have talked a lot, he has been very open about things.

The thing is is that when we were talking, he told me that he thought a serious relationship should start out as friends, then dating, then live together then look at marriage that he jumped into things too fast in the past with exes. Blue, I am really having a hard time understanding what the real issue is here.

What he hopes for his future and how he perceives the progression. Ths is actually very healthy. Even if his comments come to contradict his actions at timesthis is very healthy for him. This is not your process. If he wants to be friends, and you want to be in his life, then just be friends no sex.

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You have to check your motives here. I just personally think there is too much emphasis on him and not enough on what you want and think and feel. He just so happen to show you attention after you got out of a long-term relationship and so you jumped into this without thinking. Wiser, I appreciate your comments.

I told him that I know he likes me and he says he does but that I keep going out with other guys and I said but you said you wanted to be friends!! I think he wanted me to wait around as a friend, continue to mess around with him and not date other guys while he figured out if he was interested enough to pursue something. However, if I had done things his way, might have worked out. Please help. I am so confused.

I have been with this guy for 7 months. Everything has been perfect. He is amazing. He always has been extremely good to me, and I could always tell he really cared about me. He has been traveling a lot with his work lately, and we see each other every week, or even less. I have been fine with that as I am a busy girl anyway. About a month ago, my dog had gotten really sick. Over Thanksgiving he was going to egypt to spend time with his family he is from thereand we spent some nice quality time together before he left.

Over the holiday I had to put my dog down. It was the hardest thing i have ever had to do. My man was very comforting. I was with my family and they helped keep my mind off of it, and kept me busy. When I came home without her my dogI saw all of her things and just felt such pain. Just a couple hours later I picked him up from the airport, and he was just his normal self kissing me telling me how much he missed me.

He brought me back presents, told me he brought back some bread to make me an egyptian breakfast, etc. He went off to unpack and take a shower and we ordered in and everything was normal.

Then we made out and he wanted to have sex. I could suddenly tell he was disappointed. I let him have his space for two days because I knew he had his kids those days. Finally yesterday I emailed him to let him know I was thinking of him and his family and hoped they were okay with everything going on in Egypt.

He said thanks for the thoughts, that he was just sorting through some stuff. I texted him again apologizing if I had hurt his feelings the other night etc and he said that no apology was necessary and that he has a lot on his plate with work, the kids, etc, and he needs time to reflect.

I was confused and said I apologize in advance, but i am confused. What happened? He said he apologized too but nothing happened, he just needed some space to deal with some critical issues. Are we still good? What could have gone wrong? I never told him this, but I love him, and I really felt like he was the one for me. Any advise is appreciated. That is hard for a man to digest. Its hard for anyone to digest. In this case you put the loss of your dog over the present.

You put the loss of your dog over the comfort he has provided you. It is very important to a man who cares about you that he is able to assist you through pain and hardship. How you show him his efforts are well received is by openly receiving him. Right now he probably sees you as selfish and unappreciative. What is there to do now is reflect. Stop apologizing and reflect. During this hard time of yours he had to have said something to you in terms of his needs.

Identify it and provide it. It could be something so small as him complaining about the fabric of his socks. Go out and find socks that are softer and more resilient and send them to him. Will it fix it? Certainly not over night but he is not going to receive your words right now. And if you never told him you loved him before. Just be cool and realze you have been selfish.

Want to reconcile start considering his needs and wants too regardless of what is going on in your life because he seemed to have handled your woes for you. Wiser, Thank you for your response. I understand what you are saying. I do sound selfish. I did tell him on Thanksgiving that I am thankful for him in my life. I appreciate everything he does to make me smile, and everything he is.

I want him back, and I feel awful if it came off that I was selfish. He should know by now that I am anything but that.

Should I try to talk with him? I know he is going on a trip to Belgium on Sun for work. On this last trip his luggage tag broke. He complained about that. He asked for space, and I dont want to cause further damage, so how do I go about contacting him without doing so. I also know he is really worried about his country right now. How do I attempt to make things right? Do I send a note?

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Do I go to his house before he leaves to give it to him? My personal opinion is to be present without being present. Dont try and talk him into forgiving you. I fall victim to this too but they really get anxious or some other negative feeling when we panic and go into fix it mode. So athough you think he should know your hearthe also feels you should know his needs. With that saidyou can always buy him a snazzy tagmake it thoughtful and leave it at his doorstep if its accessible.

You can also leave a funny note that is very short and personal that says i messed up but gotta love me. Now is not the time to be heavyhe needs you to be light. Dont ring the doorbelldont calljust leave it where you know he will find it. If Youre secure in the relationship i would even suggest not saying who its from. Leave it to him to take it in and make of it what he will. This is now about him and not about what you feel. I will admit i am a spoiled woman.

My guy does an amazing job to make me feel special and sometimes i miss the cue on how he needs it back. It does put a strain in the relationship but only for a short period.

Expect to make mistakes and expect him to pull back. Its not fair but only the men who are comfortable with their femme side will verbalize the hurt. Others will just pull away to access the situation. You need to let him do that and create positive energy in the meantime.

I cant imagine this being the reason you break up. If you do then take time to consider perhaps you have been more selfish through the 7 months than you thought. Women we feel and we are so quick to vomit those feelings to the guywhy? Because professing it also makes us feel good. But your guy needs you to act more and speak less. I hope this helps. Me and my bf been dating for almost 3 years.

Everything is great and we talk thru whatever problems we may face. Now when he stresses about work and all, it sucks him in. His mind controls him completely. I said what? I wanna be supportive in anything he goes through.

I guess when he needed the space, he was okay. Now last Sunday, we were fine when we met. He gets paid bi weekly.

He got paid Friday. Then Sunday we were okay. If u do need help; and I have extra cash, il give u. Now Wednesday oct I kept thanking him for taking the day off on my bday because it meant a lot to me and he makes me happy.

He smiled and almost teared. Later we fell asleep and it felt good. I said wait what? And when he asked for the hoodies a month ago from my job, I said oh I seen some that I love. He later snapped and said Dont buy me anything. And it made me feel bad. He never had a problem with me getting something I see and I buy it. After the thing he said about not having money for 2 weeks, he acted different.

My gf and I wen out, he texted me saying happy bday; sorry I cudnt make it better. I said 3 years is amazing and my bday too. Later he says be safe and gnite. And then I said u shud go home. And he got upset and said no Ill drop u all the way to the train.

I said ur stress takes over ur mind then u may be fine again. U say u love me and then a break fr everything including ur fam. And suddenly you say that. I was jus confused and thought he was being fake and I cudnt believe him. Cuz he said that.

It was so vague. Then I was upset and furious. I suggest we need to talk Friday after work just in case. Cuz of the hurricane sandy, i wished Him safe.

Jun 27,   At some point, most women have dated a man who runs hot and cold. One minute, everything is going perfectly. He's messaging every day, he . Dating a divorced man? Before you get too far in the relationship, there are things you must know. Divorced dating is challenging, there's no doubt about that. But if you have the right information, you can date a guy after divorce and make it work. Dating today is definitely different than it used to be. MORE: When a Guy Withdraws After Sex I have been dating for 7 months with a guy I met from apps. He work & live in Dubai while I am living in Indonesia. Our personal first met was in Bali, he flew to Indonesia to spent summer vacation in Bali with me for 10 days. Before we met, he ask if this is work, am I .

But no replies. Friday we all get paid too. I open so wanted to talk to him. Ppl say he loves u and misses u: his stress makes him feel diff at the moment.

But idk it was vague.

Tagged as: dating advice, dating tips, how to stop a guy from pulling away, relationship advice, stop him from withdrawing, when a guy pulls away, when a guy withdraws, why is he pulling away, why is he withdrawing. 38 comments add one. christine February 5, , pm. Thanks for this well-written article. I'm dealing with a situation. MORE: When a Guy Withdraws After Sex I was very casually dating a guy for a couple months. At first I wasn't even aware he was trying to date me, I though he just wanted to be friends. The first few times he was a bit flaky, but I didn't think much of it because I wasn't even sure if I liked him anyway. Plus, I was guilty of being Author: Eric Charles. Mar 13,   The answer is unclear, but it's usually tied to a man who realized you weren't what he craved in the long run. Especially when he becomes distant in this case, it can be difficult to repair what you had. We're not saying it's impossible for a guy to overcome his worries about you or the relationship.

The first time he did but this time less frequent texts and its vague. WAs thinking of texting him Thursday. That was pretty intense. Im not sure i really understand your question. I also assume you and your boyfriend are no older than 25 yrs old. What did stand out was the planning around pay days that you mentioned a few times. I dont understand why that is significant to the problem. At any rate i will do my best here. I understand the lost feeling when your bf is going through something and you feel you are doing your best to reassure him.

I have also learned that its not my job to fix his problems or boost him. It can only give him the space he needs, the ear he needs, sometimes Damn the world with him, and at times remind him how competent he is. You cant boost his self worth. The men i know dont operate the way we do. The best thing you can do is just to is carry things on as business as usual. Say you understand when he gets down on himself. What is great is that he hasnt blamed you for his lack.

He seems to want to do for you but the catch is to not compare your experiences with his or fix his problems for him. I guess this would be your time to shine by suggesting activites for you two to do that he really enjoys and that he is great at and wont cost him a lot of money.

If you love him putthe focus on fun and less on his despair. He will repair himself best this way. Do offer your advice if he asks for it. If you two are at a place where he wants some time apart then give it to him willingly. Love is not selfish and he will resent you if you hold on too tight. I strongly believe that if you two have something real you will find your way back to each other.

Right now you may have to do an unselfish act and just tell him you agree and focus on you as he regains his self esteem. He was being vague. I asked if we friends or am I still ur gf? He said it like that and I said huh. But hopefully we will meet and talk it out.

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Idk he keeps saying everything is his fault when it is not. I always tell myself maybe I suck in this and I get sad :. He came back from Europe this June, called like normal, and was excited to see me.

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But then, when it was obvious I was excited to see him, he flaked out on plans. When I finally saw him, we made out and he initiated it. Any thoughts?

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Ladies, why do we leave so much to question? I get this article and agree with it almost percent but i think most of us are not reading the lines or between them. It is ok to question the guy youre seeing if youre not clear on things. It is undignified to beg and plead and nag. Men make up their own ideas of what is needy and what isnt based on their history.

You just need to be sure youre ok with your level of attachment. If things are going too fast, slow it down or he will for you. It could mean HE is. We get so stary eyed and filled with fantasy that we push too much and never stop to enjoy the moment and yes to most guys this will set off their needy alarms. I have been guilty of it too. It is however your womanly duty and obligation to yourself to set boundaries and ask questions.

Playing it cool doesnt mean you go mute. It simply means dont freak out and start fixing things. It may noy be broken.

This is very low pressure on him so if he cant answer right away it will definitely get him thinking. Youre not anyones play toy or interim or trial run so own what it is you want and that is clarification.

At the point he tells you he thinks youre cool as a friend then you let him know your boundaries so you wont be in a state of question again. Not only thathe will have a better understanding of how to address you if his feelings change. For this, I like the approach to keep the focus on what we want for ourselves without making it all about him. With that said, I disagree with the words choice suggested to find out where his interest level is.

I agree that we should always take the stance of going for what we want without looking for the guy to decide first. The thing here is that she didnt give me the impression she wants more but the interaction they had confused her.

I will disagree that asking a guy how he see you translates to looking for approval. Just like coming right out and saying I want a boyfriend or a husband even though you didnt say it had to be him can throw him off to think it is him.

Its all in the way you communicate it. Since he is her friend it should be a relatively easy conversation. A conversation involves two people and i feel its better to ask questions than to 1. Assume and 2. Make it a shut case. I guess Im diplomatic in that way and it has proven most beneficial for me also. I dont claim to be a relationship expert because well Im not. I do stand by the notion conversations need to be had.

This is why questions are important its simply involving his point of view not seeking approval. Good points, both of you ladies.

Guys are likely to recoil when you A say things in a critical tone B get all analytical on them. But the fact is that sometimes they do indeed need to be called out, or asked for clarification. My friend is always very affectionate with me in how we communicate, and I know he does like me for WHO I am, but then his actions are not nearly as attentive.

Again, making out in general? Not a huge deal. And he wants to be all chummy in conversation like normal, and it makes me feel bad. Well, I have decided not to contact him. It just feels like the right thing to do.

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If the guy felt inclined to express his emotions, fix things, and start spending more time together he would. Men go after what they want. Nobody likes rejection whatever formmy ego was desperate for an answer yesterday. But on to the next today!!! If he does end up contacting in the future I will respond to this post. Just so the rest of you can see how this saga turned out. Good luck I am so happy to have stumbled upon this site. It answered a lot of questions for me. I was very casually dating a guy for a couple months.

Plus, I was guilty of being flaky myself. He was consistent with the text messaging, and as we got to know each other I realized he really was pursing me with all of his affection, and kind words.

Later, I started to notice that when we were in a group setting he would act kind of moody and ignore me. Well after our last time hanging out, he has been MIA: like a good 5 days between each contact. I was the last person to initiate contace, and that convo was very polite but very short. I refuse to contact him again.

What the heck went wrong? Was he ever calling or just texting? Was he only pursuing you with kind words and affection, what did his actions say? When he is really interested he will make sure he sees you when he says he wants to. Thanks for your insight! He never called, just text me practically all daythat eventually dropped to a single conversation in the evening. When we were together he was always a gentleman and attentive, except for in a party setting. I should clarify he was a gentleman and attentiveexcept for when we were at a huge social gathering.

I mean he was introducing me to his friends right away and seemed like he really wanted to get to know me.

Things seem to have gone awry in such a short amount of time. Kind of mind-blowing. Yeah I hear you. I read somewhere that men reveal themselves a lot with the way they behave when they are away e.

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Makes sense. Now I feel foolish for even posting this. Look it has been my experience that calling to find out is the best thing to do. You cant say you dont care because youre on this forum. Its one thing to read and keep it moving but you inquired therefore you care. It is ok to care just like it is very womanly to give him a call to find out what is going on with him.

Not all men are the same. I have been dealing with mine for 4 years and he still perplexes me. He is a very strong and capable man but he is also very sensitive and his feelings are easily hurt. He is more protective of his heart than i could ever be of mine.

My point is sometimes they respond the way they do because they do like you and the only way to know for sure is to ask direct questions or to take a leap yourself. It sounds like you arent as sure of your own emotions to be thinking for him. I mean no disrespect here but men are people too and they have the same range of emotions as we do.

So if you were flakey and nonchalantly he could have taken that as rejection also. Againi say jusy call and ask. The worst that can happen is he 1. In both cases you got a definite answer. Best of luck. I agree that men have a full range of emotions. I did contact him last. It ended up being a super brief conversation about nothing really. What is not clear to me is the actual conversation you had.

I dont think its necessary to tell us either but here is my take on things. Just be sure you know what you are asking. Does itake you look desperate? Not unless you are begging. Will he think youre an idiot?

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Does it really matter? If youre ok with the assumption he isnt into you and dont even care about a friend. My point is though, we put so much responsibility on the guy to pursue and to chose and to be assertive but those things are required of us too. You asked where it went wrong so Im just covering your portion of the story.

Id say it went wrong when you neglected to ask him what happened because you were concerned. Could he have spoken upabsolutely but you called him. I personally wouldnt think any less of you if you called him to simply find out if you offended him in any way but only if you truly cared. If not then just let it go and the next person you encounter give yourself permission to ask the right questions.

The best thing to do when a guy stops calling or he disappears is nothing. There is no point in asking him why. You already mentioned something to him and got an unclear reply. If you go after him and want or demand an explanation, you will just push him further away. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years. Recently he had to go out of state for a few weeks, work related. Well he met a girl and developed certain feelings for her. He tells me he cares about her and worries.

I asked him if he still loves me, but he says he is confused. He told me that if we take a few weeks or months to take our relationship back a step less phsycial, more getting to know one anotheragain he might figure out what he wants. I just want him to be happy and I feel like I failed. He use to be okay with his image, sure we are both over weight, but we tried our best with it, and now he wants to starve himself and loss weight. He goes out of state sometimes to hang out with her and another guy, and I recently found out that his friends made a bet with each other which led to her kissing him and he felt bad about it.

I guess even if that means we split up. Dont let him figure it out for you. Is this the kind of situation you want? I hope you found your courage or bought some or drank it at least enough to not be scared over his decision simply because you decided this is not the ideal situation for you. Know your worth. WOW I just read this article and it hit the nail on the head!

I met a guy 2 monthes ago, we texted for awhile before meeting up again. After we hung out a few times, I started to get comfortable and text him back things like that. I noticed it right after a baseball game we went to where we held hands and were touchy the whole night. A few days later after he had already started pulling away he came over and we fooled around, and a few days after that he played baseball with my team and then afterwards we had sex.

We hung out one more time and had sex again, but at my house and he did meet my parents. I am thinking now it was maybe too much too soon 6 times together in 2 weeks.

He messaged me the day after he got back and we have chatted a little bit. I asked him to go for coffee yesterday but he had other plans. Let him cool his jets and come to me. I do like him alot, and he knows that. But I guess now is time to bite the bullet even if it hurts!! Thanks Eric for this article. I posted on this blog months ago and I have learned a lot from my previous feelings. When someone walks away or withdrawals it is not our job to figure out WHY but give them the space to do so.

Yes it hurts but maybe we are never fully supposed to understand. There will always be others to meet and let in but I have taken a good look at men who have pulled away and decided its their loss not mine. No matter how bad it hurts, pain is truly only temporary. I was seeing a guy for about a month. Things were going great, perhaps moved a little fast 3rd base. He left for vacation for a whole month and barely had internet access. The day he was leaving we met up in the morning.

Then in the afternoon, he stopped by to hug me goodbye on his way to the airport. He called me two days later but never called me again. While he was there he texted me twice and I said hi on facebook once and small talked a little. I found out through our friend in common his bff that he was coming back and that he called her many times while he was away. I was with my friend the night he came back and she told me that they were going to hang out that night.

I am dry, maybe my texts were cold. I wonder what I should do next. Maybe text him something simple in a couple of days? Or even call? Or move on? Thank you for this article. It helped but I am still confused about what to do with my situation.

I am I have been dating an older man just turned 40 for the past 6 weeks. Things were going really well until last week. He has told his friends we are dating and we have slept together several times.

Then this last week he has been acting strange. It started last Friday. I did not. He replied ok. Then nothing from him Sunday or Monday. We set a date. He replied explaining how she just started a new shift working midnights so it throws his schedule off. I told him I was meeting up with friends.

Should I try contacting him one more time? Is he just freaking out? Any advice would help. So i have been talking to this guy for a couple weeks and he was so sweet he would messsage me in the morning and sometimes i would beat him too it.

He did say he would like to go out again. But now it just seems like if i text him its nothing. Am I reading this wrong or should I just come out and just ask him if im wasting my time.

Hi Eric, first off, your Ask a Man advice is really great and has been insightful to read.

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Things were going really great, my friends all noticed how obvious it was that he adores me, he went out of his way to spend quality wholesome time together, was very very affectionate basically like a love sick puppy, and this went on for 5 months. I noticed a slight withdrawal on his part, and instead of letting him and me to have space to process things, I took his withdrawal the wrong way, as a threat, and got upset with him and definitely made him feel like I was trying to take away his freedom.

I let him come to me. And while I waited, I focused on myself, doing my thing and not obsessing.

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I felt very clear about what had happened, and eventually he did come to me. The evening was coming to an end, and I was confused as to what this little getting together was about. Was he trying to be just friends, was he testing to waters to see what our chemistry was like? So i wondered if there were things he wanted to say, but he was afraid to say them. So I forced it.

I even shed some tears. I went to a weird place that had nothing to do with him, and only to do with my past relationships. He said we should not make any big decisions and think about things. So that was about a week and a half ago.

There was very minimal texting the next day, but since then nothing. So, I really do want him to come to me. We had so much fun together, and it felt like we were teenagers. It was easy. I want him to know how successful he was at making me happy, in addition to me being a naturally happy person to begin with.

Would it be so terrible if I wanted to reach out this time, ask him to get together? Is he just keeping his stuff at my place, and keeping my keys to keep me on a bookshelf? You worry about what it will mean if you stay single. The tone of the relationship shifts from ease to pressure. I talk a lot about this concept in my article on why men suddenly lose interest. There are a few things you should do when a man is pulling away that can save your relationship and actually make it better and stronger than ever.


I understand that this is easier said than done. You only push him further away when you chase after him. Spend that time literally doing anything else, anything. Worrying how he feels makes the situation worse. Not stressing about how he feels is what solves everything. Work on feeling OK, work on your inner OK-ness. The choice is yours. Focus on finding happiness and fulfillment in your life that is not dependent on another person.

Men want a happy woman. As we mentioned, men prefer to retreat and deal with things on their own. The biggest mistake a woman can make when he is in this mode is to force him to talk about it. And even worse is when she tries to solve the problem for him. Even though your intentions are pure, when you offer up solutions he will just feel resentful toward you.

Men need to feel competent, like they can deal with whatever comes up in their lives. When he is under stress, just give him space and try not to take it personally. If you get angry or frustrated with him, he will just see you as another source of stress in his life, and it will put more strain on the relationship. Now there you have it, the exact reasons why men withdraw and what you can do to bring him back. All you can do is work on being your best self and bring that to the table.

A man pulling away in a relationship is inevitable. The way you respond will determine if the relationship deteriorates or is stronger than ever. Do you know what makes him come back and invest in you and the relationship even more than before?

This article makes me thing that I do the right thing at the moment. But for how long silent like this? I have been dating for 7 months with a guy I met from apps. Our personal first met was in Bali, he flew to Indonesia to spent summer vacation in Bali with me for 10 days. Before we met, he ask if this is work, am I ready for LDR. And I said yes, you can visit me or I can visit you and spent a few months cos I my work is flexible. So after that vacation, the next week he surprised me, by came to Indonesia again for bussines trip for 3 days.

On first day, after meeting he came to my house to pick me up and take me to his hotel. And my last meeting was in Dec before Christmas, when he came again for bussines trip 6 days. After that we keep in touch most of the time by text. I was planning to visit him this May but the corona virus has destroy my plan. February he should fly to Indonesia, but the pandemic has banned his office to make bussines trip for a while.

The pandemic situation has making me moody, and because just staying at home not doing much makes my feeling gets worst. Our whatsapp text feels like start declining.

Especially since this pandemic happening. Is it just me who feel this way or you also feel it? Social distancing doesnt only apply to real human interactions, but also to us who are already very far from each other.

He didnt reply my text untill now. Even I sent him Easter greeting, but still no reply. I decide it to leave him to give him some space. Cos I realised that my text might upset him. But I wonder until when like this? Does he still want to be with me, or he just wanna moving on? Next month is his Birthday, and I am thinking to say happy birthday to him.

I hope this is a way to get us connected again. What do you think guys, shall I text him happy birthday, or shalI I still just leave him to give him space like the article said? He mentioned a ton of family obligations and a second job, but after three months of not seeing him in person, it started to feel like excuses to me.

I never told him I felt like that, of course, as it sounded insecure on my part. We still talk daily, though, and still flirt, it just felt like less than before, especially with not seeing him in person.

Perhaps my advice is emasculating for him, like you mentioned? I do know he planned to visit his dying relative a few weeks ago, and I saw how hard it was hitting him and offered to go with him as moral support and he took that the wrong way. I go above and beyond for my friends. Sabrina Alexis. Thank you for this article.

I encourage all other ladies who are going through a similar situation to take the advice in this article.

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    2 Replies to “Dating guy withdraws”

    1. Unfortunately, I can help nothing, but it is assured, that you will find the correct decision. Do not despair.

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